I had a one night stand with someone who I didn't particularly want to have sex with, and definitely didn't want to have unprotected sex with, but I felt too weak to speak up in the moment and say that so it happened, and now I think he gave me herpes and now I feel like a big piece of trash and I'm so upset and I'm going to the doctor later for them to tell me I should have told him to wear a condom and I just feel horrible. Do you have any advice?
Well the good news is that herpes is a very common STI that according to the Centre for Disease Control and Prevention about one and six people between 14 to 49 live with. So you don’t need to feel bad, you just have to know and understand how you can properly take care of you and your future partners. The Doctors will probably advise you that you should have definitely used a condom, but even if you did you would have still been at risk to catch herpes. It can transmit through more than just unprotected penetrative sex. I hope that you learnt an important lesson and choose to be safe every time from now on, but it’s not too late to speak up if you were forced into having sex but you’ve got to say no if you don’t want it to happen the sooner you say so the better. And remember in the future you’ll still be able to have a happy and healthy sex life, you just have to be more responsible and aware of the risks. Also talking with close friends can be very beneficial, you might be surprised to learn who you know that has it too.