Anonymous

Hey guys, I know this is a porn/sex blog but since you guys are so happy and chilled (or it seems that way!) I was wondering if you'd have any advice for me, I recently got back together with my ex, and we're happy. the only problem is I can't stop looking at his ex's Twitter. and it's frustrating both of us. any tips on how to break this habit?!

Just delete twitter from your phone. Unless your job really depends on you using taking a few months away and by the time you totally forget about her again you can go back and it will be like you never felt that way. Moving on will feel great, and I’m sure you’ll enjoy the time away from all the tweets. 

Anonymous

your double exposure theme is by far my favourite so far, I love every single one of the submissions you've received for this theme. They're all very beautiful!

Thanks for letting us know, I’ve wanted to dedicate a Sunday to double exposure for a long time so I’m glad that we finally did it. I agree everyone’s submissions were very impressive and I’m excited to do it again next year.  

Anonymous

Ninja, Trouble, My girlfriend and I have been together for a while and recently moved in together. Things have been going quite well except recently I've begun to have sexual thoughts about other women. I don't want to lose my little ninja but it feels like this situation is becoming more and more prevalent lately. What do I do?

This is totally up to you decide, all you can do is compare both situations. Yes other women do seem tempting, but at the end of the day are they worth losing the trust, safety and comfort of someone you already live with? It’s an important question that you need to think about. Relationships don’t all work, and the good thing about testing them is it helps us under and appreciate the value or lack their of. Also based on your decision you should also talk with your girlfriend about your desires, she might also have wondering sexual thoughts and fantasize about other partners. Perhaps this is best for both of you or perhaps you can do it together. 

Anonymous

Is the 50% coupon expired? That's what is popping up when I try to use it.

Oh yes, it has sorry about that. We set it to automatically turn off after one week but we’ve decided to keep the coupon active and extend the sale. Head on over to the Ninja Approved ClipVia shop and add the videos you want to the cart then use the coupon code DONTGIVEUP to save 50% off your purchase. 

Anonymous

Hi Ninja & Trouble, I'm in need of some help! Recently started having sex with someone I care about but I have yet to orgasm. He always finishes before me, and feels bad that I don't cum. Regardless I still enjoy it, and I have told him that. Any advice on how I can finish faster? love the blog by the way, xoxo

It’s important for all guys to know that sex is not over immediately after they cum, sometimes guys need to be reminded that there is another person involved that needs to be satisfied as well. Also the more pressure you put on yourself to try to cum based on his timeline the less likely you’ll be able to feel relaxed enough to do so. You should communicate with this guy and let him know that you need more attention, perhaps he can get in the habit of going down on you and making you cum from oral before he even takes his cock out. Then you might easier reach a second orgasm while you two are fucking. Or perhaps you can explain to him what would help you orgasm during sex, either way I think a talk will help more than you just trying to rush. 

Anonymous

Ninja, Trouble...I could use some of your advice and wisdom. I recently stumbled upon a private post in my girlfriend's tumblr about how she often fakes orgasms because "so many others do it" and how she had to drink multiple shots of vodka before I got home to sleep with me. I'm at a loss. We had sex last night and I couldn't even orgasm. I don't know how to bring it up. And I never knew that's how she felt about me.

You can take away two important things here, firstly don’t ever go stumbling around your partners inboxes because if you dig deep enough you’ll surely find something upsetting, and most times you’re better off not knowing. Secondly, it sounds like your relationship is on it’s way to be over. The sooner you come to terms with that the better, you can start by asking her how she feels about being together. Hopefully she’ll start the ball rolling and express her issues. You can take it from there and either decide to part ways or really work in fixing things. Good luck. 

Anonymous

I noticed you put some pictures up of pegging. My boyfriend and I have discussed trying it. Any tips?

Hopefully before you try pegging, you have played with him receiving other anal pleasure, like fingering or a butt plug. It’s definitely a process that requires a few steps to get comfortable with, don’t just jump into pegging if he’s never done anything before. After you have some experience in that department go shopping for a strap on or double ended dildo together, make sure he is ok with the size and shape of the toy you choose. Anal sex works the same regardless of who’s on what end of the penetrating, you need to be patient, move slowly and communicate. Also talk about what position he’d prefer to be in, either bent over or on his back, or maybe he wants to ride you so he can totally control the depth and speed. After a few months of slow penetration he should be completely relaxed and then you’ll be able to have your way with him as he encourages you to go as fast/slow/deep as he desires. Good luck and have fun. 

Anonymous

Trouble, I'm curious; why do you shave your leg and pubic hairs but not your underarms? It's just in my experience, girls either shave it all off or don't shave anything.

I used to shave my underarms but my hair under there grows like wild fire and I found I was shaving almost daily to try and avoid stubble which was both abrasive on my skin and annoying to try and upkeep. I go through periods where I don’t shave my legs or pubic hair too, but I enjoy feeling smooth skin from time to time so I shave when I feel like it. It’s definitely liberating to not feel like I have to, and being a woman with thick and noticeable armpit hair has done wonders for subverting the male gaze while I’m out in public around strangers. I definitely get cat-called and hit on less when my armpit hair is visible, which I find funny and enjoy.
-Trouble

Anonymous

I (sort of) had a dream about the Ninja last night where I finally got to be with this guy that I'm in a long distance relationship with, and it turned out you were his best friend. And I just freaked out because being able to meet you and Trouble was too awesome for my brain to handle.

Aww, we’re regular folks just like all of you but it’s sweet to think you’d be that excited. Thanks for sharing your dream with us. 

Anonymous

I just heard that your site was shut down - I'm sorry to hear that! I was wondering if you had considered using a site like makelovenotporn - I'm not sure whether it caters to your needs in terms of selling/renting videos etc but it's worth a look if you haven't already!

Thanks for the suggestions, we thoroughly investigated all our options, and though makelovenotporn was the most popular one due to Cindy Gallops TED talk, we felt that it was not fair to give 50% of our profits and your money to her and her site. Trouble and I both went to art school so we’ve been taught how to avoid having our work be taken advantage of and a deal like that is definitely a bad one. We both have experience creating art behind and in front of the camera and have a huge audience to promote our work to, so though MLNP may be the trendiest option right now they certainly do not appreciate or respect the people who create the content for their site enough to pay them fairly so we decided against being a part of it. 

Anonymous

Do you ever upload posts of submissions related to disease? I feel like that could be an interesting theme: the theme to help get rid of stigma and help liberate those who suffer in silence. I love your blog btw. Have a beautiful day.

It’s rare that we get submissions that relate to disease, so dedicating an entire theme to it may be too inclusive but if someone did submit something that touched on the topic of living with a disease and the photo itself was taken well and fit on SS we would definitely include it. Eliminating stigmas surrounding disease is definitely important and we encourage acceptance and openness as much as possible with our submissions. 
-Trouble

snakebites-gauges

Hi, I was wondering if you post pictures of pregnant women? I'm currently 9 months (38 weeks on Wednesday), and I absolutely love your blog. I've always wanted to submit something but I'm so insecure about my body and the stretch marks I have...

As long as the submission is well shot, well composed, and well lit we have no problem posting pictures of pregnant women. Personally I think stretch marks are beautiful and would love to see more submissions with them. Our only requirements for submissions is that the person in them is 18+ and that they abide by the rules on our submit page. 
-Trouble

Anonymous

Ninja and Trouble. For years now i have been fascinated by the sex industry, whether is be stripping, camming, burleqsue dancing or alternative modelling. I feel like normal jobs just dont suit me, and have considered for a long time that the sex industry is my calling. it just really appeals to me in many ways and being the sexual person that i am, im really wanting to explore it. Everyone ive brought it up to makes me feel bad for even considering it. what are your views on getting into it?

The sex industry is full of talented, thoughtful, intelligent and creative people who are doing amazing things. A lot of people have a negative connotation towards sex work because of the way it has been portrayed and the stereotypes surrounding it but I feel a lot of that comes out of not understanding the industry and doing the research to learn about the real people involved in it and why they choose to work in sex culture. The sex industry can be whatever you choose to make of it and working in it can be safe, respectable, and something to be proud of being apart of as long as you are true to yourself and your comfort levels while you’re in it. If it’s something you feel passionate about and driven towards than I would recommend doing your research and reaching out to people or performers that you respect and look up to to learn more about it first. 
-Trouble

Anonymous

Thoughts on hairy nipples? I'm 19 and I have peach fuzz around my nipples and I'm self conscious about my boyfriend seeing it while he's sucking or licking them. I've always heard that there aren't supposed to be hair around them on women.

The term “supposed to be” is one I think we should delete from our minds in regards to body hair because there really isn’t a norm on how much hair should be on a male or female body. Everyone is different and hair grows in a lot more places than you think. Being pretty hairy myself I have hairs around my nipples, sometimes even thicker darker ones that sprout up. I remember feeling insecure about them as well when I was younger and would often pluck them out but after a while I stopped caring and started noticing that not a single partner of mine said anything about it, treated me any differently, or even seemed to notice. I’m sure it’s the same with your boyfriend, he’s probably used to hair on his own body so there’s no reason why he should mind yours. 
-Trouble

speaced

Hi Ninja and Trouble, i looooove your blog, there is much beauty here, if we cannot find beauty in embracing sexuality then there is no hope:))) i just wanted to say one thing, i found it slightly challenging to see to dudes together in pictures, being a totes straight guy but now i have got used to them and im very grateful, that slowly this blog has given me an ease around homosexuality that may have taken longer if i hadnt been logging on so often:) lots of love xxx

Oh man reading this means so much to me, thank you for sharing your message and how NN has helped change your perspective. I think it’s important that we normalize what normal really is, and this message proves that it is working. I think of all the things we have accomplished with ninjas, inspiring this message is one of my proudest. Again thank you so much for letting us know. You just brought a huge smile to my face.