Need some advice. My girlfriend wants me to slap her face during sex. I'm into rough sex but hitting her face seems a little too far. On the other hand I want to make it as pleasurable for her as possible. Should I just man up and do it?
If it’s something that you don’t feel comfortable doing then you shouldn’t pressure yourself. Hitting a girl in the face is something that’s been engrained in men is a big no-no so it’s natural for you to not feel okay with it. I can tell you from experience that being slapped in the face during sex is very exciting and can be a big turn on if done correctly. It’s not about manning up, but assessing what you’re comfortable doing. Some people aren’t okay with that kind of play. Talk to her and tell her what about it bothers you and allow it to strike up a conversation of what turns both of you on.
Love how you repost both straight, gay and lesbian 69 pics. Personally the gay ones are still kinda "gross" to me (gross is too big of a word but it's the best way I find to describe it) but I try to be open minder about it. It just really shows how open minded you two are and I have the greatest amount of respect for that
The first few times you see something it may seem strange or uncomfortable but the more you see it the more you can understand and accept it. I appreciate your positive perspective and your message.
Hello there <3 My bf and I have been dating for almost a year and have great sex, but every time he wants me to "squirt". Is it something all girls can do? Or is there something wrong with me? Although he makes me feel incredible I don't think I have ever reached an orgasm yet... Any tips? Suggestions pls?
It took me almost 8 years of being sexually active before I learned squirting was something my body was capable of. There’s nothing wrong with you if you can do it or if you can’t. It takes a great deal of relaxation on your end and effort on his. Stay very hydrated, that’s important, and the next time he says he wants to make you squirt encourage him to reach his fingers deep inside of you, find your g-spot and massage it lightly with his finger tips and push yourself against him until he feels a build up inside of you. At this point tell him to go harder and he should aggressively pump his fingers against you to release it. Ninja often gets me to hold my knees into my chest and lifts my ass up when he gets my to squirt. He also makes the sexiest sounds and tells me how good I look and feel and that encouragement helps a lot in the process. You can read about one of our accounts of him making me squirt here. Even people who can squirt can’t necessarily do it every time though and your boyfriend should be mindful that if it’s something your body doesn’t respond to it can’t be forced and he shouldn’t put pressure on you to if you can’t.
I only recently realized that I have a biting (fetish?) I love biting and being bitten but it's kind of weird. I feel like biting is its own separate thing, because it doesn't come up in rough sex, or in S&M too much so there's no appropriate way to bring it up. So I'm having issues with it. Thoughts?
Biting and being bitten feels great and isn’t weird at all. I find it usually comes up in the transition between having soft and sweet sex into more aggressive sex. There are many ways you could bring it up during. You could initiate by biting them first, being mindful they may not be into it. Or just straight up ask them to do it. Tease them with your bottom lip, or wherever you want to be bitten, and ask nicely while expressing how excited it will make you.
I find biting to be a huge turn on, and I of course agree with Trouble that it can easily inspire rough play. But it also acts as a way to show your partner how turned on you are, one of my favorite things is when she lays back biting her arm while I’m going down on her or while we fuck. It’s such a simple little thing, but it definitely brings the wolf out of me.
Dear Ninja and Trouble, My boyfriend and I are both new to sex, and have been enjoying each other's company greatly as of late. The literal sex is great but the oral is kind of horrible. When I give him head, he forgets that, while deep throating feels great for him, I still need oxygen. And when he's going down on me he barely eats it at all, he uses too much teeth on my clit, and he spreads my lips wider than the Sahara and it hurts. How do I tell him all of that without hurting his feelings?
Most people learn best from examples, so it may seem obvious but honestly the easiest way for him to understand is for him to see it. Find a video of the kind of head you want, and either watch it together or send it to him. When you watch it together talk about how much you like how the oral scene is, and if he does not pick up the hint, he might be a lost cause. But communication is always key, and though it may be hard to bring up once you start talking it will be very beneficial and help you both understand each others wants and limits.
My boyfriend recently learned I'm a squirter, and he tries to get me to squirt all the time, but anytime I'm getting close I feel as if I'm going to pee. Is this normal? Could I actually accidentally pee on him?
Feeling like you’re going to pee is totally normal. I’ve felt it many times, and a big part of allowing yourself to squirt is getting past any mental blocks that keep you from relaxing and letting it happen. It’s helpful to pee before he tries to make you squirt for peace of mind. I explain my experience of squirting in Trouble Testimonial Eleven. If you want to read how it felt for me. Relax and enjoy it!
Please tell me more about blackbelts. What do they stand for? What does it mean to wear one? :)
Wearing a Black Belt Bracelet means that you support this blog and understand the general sexuality positivity that NN promotes. It means you are proud of your secret sexuality and aren’t afraid of showing it. That’s enough from me, I’d love to hear what wearing an NN bracelet means to all of you that have them.
What was the most altering event that has happened in your life so far? How has it influenced you as a person?
I think like this is one of those questions that just gets spammed to everyone but I’ll quickly reply for the fun of it. The most recent life altering event was definitely being run into by a speeding car a few weeks ago. I feel luckier than I’ve ever felt since I escaped the accident un-injured and alive. I have developed a new appreciation for my own life since feeling like I was an inch away from death. I’m more excited than I’ve ever been about the future and am no longer dreading getting older.
I think my boyfriend of 3 years is cheating on me or at the very least flirting with the idea. i found text messages on his phone with someone I have never heard of before referencing plans for the next weekend (non sexual plans). Because I looked in his phone I'm ashamed to just outright ask him because I did something wrong too. What would you suggest in this type of situation?
I feel like you’re jumping to conclusions here, you’ve got no evidence he’s cheating though it does appear that he has a new friend or a work colleague. From your description you’re the only one that did anything wrong since your boyfriend is free to make non-sexual plans with people you don’t know. But you broke his trust by reading his phone, I’d suggest you confess and say you’re sorry this way he can either confirm your suspicion or explain who he’s been texting but either way your mind will be able to rest instead of constantly worry and feel uncomfortable.
Hello Ninja & Trouble. Last night I had a super sexy dream. I dreamt that I was on the couch where the spanking video took place, and I was Trouble's sub. Ninja was filming it, and boy was it fantastic. She is a complete goddess, in photos, videos, and apparently even my dreams. All I can say is, if Trouble is ever looking for a female sub... xo.
Sounds like a very amazing dream, one that I’ve been fantasizing about actually. Trouble is such a great Domme I can not wait to get to watch her be the boss of someone else and I’d love to document it and make another Ninja Approved video. Thanks for sharing your dream with us.
Hi there Trouble and Ninja! Is there a size chart/something we can use for reference on the Trouble shirt? I know this has been asked before, but I can't seem to find it anywhere. Thanks! xx
The Trouble shirt is printed on American Apparel so you can reference their size chart here.
did you know she was trouble when she walked in?
I had absolutely no idea she would become Trouble when we met. She continues to amaze, impress and inspire me every day.
How do I submit a submission? Thanks NN!!
You can either submit through the submit link or by email to email@example.com. Don’t forget a write up with your photo and don’t forget to attach the image. If you’d like to submit multiple ones we will choose our favourite. We look forward to your submission.
Hi Ninja and Trouble! I know the both of you are always saying to accept and love your body. But I feel, as much as I appreciate your advice when I scroll through, that I can't help but think what you must have gone through to not only accept each other, but yourselves. I'm going through my own acceptance and do feel insecure about my own body. I still compare my body to other bodies and feel that I don't measure up and therefore feel inadequate. How have you overcome that?
For me a lot of my own body acceptance came from having to work through an eating disorder that I struggled with for most of my teens and into my early adulthood. While I was always able to accept the beauty in the differences in others bodies, I had a distorted perception of myself. In realizing that this was a distortion and breaking my cycles I was able to be much more realistic with myself. I eventually came to understand that there were parts of my body that would likely be unchanging throughout my life, and rather than compare myself to others and exert the energy it takes to obsess over being thinner, having bigger breasts, being taller, whathaveyou, I learned to accept myself. I found that being confident in my appearance, despite its flaws, and moreso putting weight into the things about myself I feel are truly unique and special (both physically and intellectually) gave me a greater sense of self beauty. Self acceptance takes time and patience and I hope you can find the strength and beauty in yourself to feel better soon.