Anonymous

I'm positively scared of pregnancy, even if I'm taking the pill regularly, so I want to use condoms while having sex. My new partner seems to have trouble staying erect even in the transition period between foreplay and penetration. Any thoughts on what would remedy this?

Practice makes perfect, some guys are not used to the method of putting on a condom and the feeling of it. The more he uses a condom the more comfortable he will be. Ask your guy to try wearing condoms sometimes when he masturbates. Also have him try out a few different brands and styles. And tell him how sexy you think safety is.

nonsensical--gal

This weekend, my lover & I explored something new. We're very open in the bedroom (or wherever we may be...) but when he asked me if I'd ever experimented with anal play, I was hesitant & fearful of what his expectations might be. I answered honestly, saying no, but that I was open to it. For every horror story you hear, there are ten more positive stories. Any time I get shy in the bedroom, I remind myself I'm a ninja! And I thanked him this morning for his gentleness & patience ;) xoxo

That’s really great to read we get a lot of questions about anal play and I hope some of our advice helped you. I’m happy it was a nice experience for you, and your partner did all the right things. Thanks for letting us know.

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notsophiesworld

Your ask box is a magic place for me. I’ve used it many times with success, but never hitting the “Ask”. It gives me everything I need: the possibility to reach out to somebody, the motivation to structure my thoughts in written form and the creation of my own answer after reading myself, by wondering what you’d say (since I always find your advice so fulfilling). THANKS. I truly love you.

Oh dear, that is very sweet to read. Thanks for letting me know I’m glad my ask box can be so fulfilling and helpful for you. 

myhearthasjoinedthethousand

You guys are amazing. You give me so many ideas and so much inspiration to take to the bedroom. So many people see sex as taboo but you really help spread the word that talking about sex is healthy!!

Really glad to help, thanks for letting us know and please help spread the positivity. 

Anonymous

hi ninja & trouble, i imagine you guys having such cool lives. what do y'all do for a living?

Trouble and I basically kick butt and take names for a living. 

Anonymous

This might be a bit intrusive, but what are your and/or Trouble's thoughts on marriage?

I think marriage is really great for people that want to get married, and it’s a terrible idea for someone that does not want to. 

Anonymous

I want my girl friend and I to do a couples submission but not exactly sure how to broach the subject, any thoughts lol?

Tell her how much you love admiring how beautiful your bodies look together, and that you’re so proud of your great sex life that you want to share it and show it off like you’ve seen couples do on SS. Find some of your favourite photos and show them to her, hopefully she’ll feel inspired too. 

Anonymous

Hey Ninja! I've been recently introduced into NN, and I'm very excited. I've been browsing through questions, posts, and of course the vey sexy pictures that have been submitted. I can honestly say that everyone that has posted a photo is very beautiful, and sensual, and raw. That's why I think I would like to support NN with submissions, but I feel a little hesitant/self conscious ... I can't help but notice that there aren't a lot of colored Ninjas...

Oh please do not be hesitant because of that, the only reason SS is lacking more variety is because we don’t receive the submissions necessary to represent everyone. But I would love to see more photos from different colours, sizes and sexualities. Hopefully you can help us out. 

Anonymous

Ninja, have you done quite a bit of travelling? I'm asking because I want to do some travelling in a year or so. Any advice or destinations you'd recommend?

No I have not done that much travelling. You should figure out what you want to experience from travelling and go to the best places to fulfil that. 

Anonymous

Am I selfish for wanting more intimacy then I get from my partner? I constantly seem to find myself sexually frustrated, and for what I put into the relationship I feel that this shouldn't keep happening. I've tried talking to her about it but it never really gets anywhere

Neither of you are being selfish for wanting or denying sexual satisfaction, you are just being yourselves. And from what you’ve described you want different things. Hopefully you can find a way to both be happy, and that might requite not being together. 

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